Somewhere along the way, a lot of us absorbed an unspoken rule: grief has a reasonable amount of time, and after that, you should be "over it." A few months for a breakup. A year for a death. Then back to normal.
Grief doesn't work that way, and holding yourself to that timeline usually just adds shame on top of pain that was already hard enough.
What grief actually looks like
Grief moves in waves rather than in a straight line. It's common to feel mostly okay for weeks and then be flattened by a smell, a song, or an anniversary you didn't even consciously remember — that's simply the shape grief takes for a lot of people.
Grieving vs. stuck
There's an important difference worth paying attention to: grieving usually still has moments of relief, connection, and even joy mixed in, even in a hard season. Feeling stuck often looks like complete numbness, isolation, or a sense that nothing will ever feel okay again, for a long stretch of time.
If that second description sounds more like where you are, there's a simple reason: something this heavy is easier to carry with help than alone. Grief counseling simply makes sure you don't have to carry your loss by yourself.